Introduction: The Anxiety Every Parent Feels
Modern Indian parents are more invested in their children’s education than any generation before them. They spend money on schools, coaching classes, and online courses; they sacrifice time, weekends, and emotional energy. Yet, despite all this effort, thousands of parents find themselves lying awake at night wondering, “Why isn’t my child learning the way he should?”
To answer that question, let’s step inside a brutally honest conversation between two parents — one that mirrors the silent frustration felt across India.
The System Isn’t Broken — It’s Working Exactly As Designed
Parent A: “I don’t understand. My daughter studies constantly. But she’s anxious, confused, and losing confidence. School says she’s ‘average’. What am I doing wrong?”
Parent B: “You’re not doing anything wrong. The problem lies with a system that sorts children instead of educating them.”
Most Indian parents assume schools build learning. In reality, schools rank children. The system isn’t failing accidentally — it was built to select a few and discard the rest. The tragedy is that parents blame themselves or their children, instead of recognizing the structural truth.
Marks Measure Circumstances, Not Intelligence
Parent A: “But marks matter, right? They tell us how smart our kids are?”
Parent B: “Marks measure privilege more than intelligence.”
Marks are shaped by the environment a child grows up in:
- educated parents
- English-speaking homes
- computer access
- stable electricity
- quiet study space
- mental and emotional support
Children don’t compete on equal ground, yet they’re judged as if they do. Exams reward the already-advantaged while punishing children who start their educational journey barefoot on uneven terrain.
Coaching Centres: India’s Parallel Education System
Parent A: “But every child has tuition now. Is that normal?”
Parent B: “Coaching exists because schools don’t do their job.”
Schools race through the syllabus. Coaching classes teach children how to survive exams. Parents pay twice, while children pay with their childhood — losing weekends, curiosity, and joy. Learning becomes a burden, not a discovery.
Coaching centres have become the unofficial education system. Schools have become glorified attendance centres.
When Children Struggle, They’re Blamed, Not Supported
Parent A: “My son feels like a failure when he scores low.”
Parent B: “Because our system treats failure as elimination instead of feedback.”
Children are labelled “weak”, “average”, or “not serious”. But no one slows down to teach again. No one adapts methods. No one asks, “What does this child actually need?”
The system moves ahead. The child gets left behind.
The result? Silent emotional injury that eventually turns into fear, avoidance, or complete disengagement.
Language: The Hidden Discriminator
Parent A: “My son is teased because his English isn’t fluent.”
Parent B: “English has become India’s unofficial caste system.”
We judge intelligence through accents. Fluency becomes superiority. Children who speak their mother tongue at home carry the burden of constant comparison. Instead of celebrating multilingualism, schools penalise it.
Parents Must Stop Outsourcing Their Children’s Education
By the end of such conversations, one truth becomes clear:
Parents must take ownership.
If they don’t, coaching centres will. And coaching centres are businesses — not guardians of children’s emotional or intellectual development.
The future belongs to children who can think, explore, adapt, and create — not those who can memorise and regurgitate.
Conclusion: It’s Time to Build the Education Our Children Deserve
Your child is not lazy, weak, or disinterested. He is reacting to a system that doesn’t understand him. A child never fails school; school fails the child. But parents can rewrite the story by choosing learning environments that actually work for children — not for ranks or report cards.
If you’re ready to give your child learning that is joyful, personalised, and future-proof, start here:
👉 https://www.teachtoearn.in/start-a-teach-to-earn-learning-pod/